Is there a difference between reaching into the past to find someone you loved but can no longer reach and reaching into the future to find someone you love (or might love), but might never meet?
Let me give you an example. People around me are forever mourning the loss of touch with a sibling, or maybe the actual death of a sibling. Quite tragic, but they never seem to realize that as an only child, my sibling, that I might love and need, never came into being. I grant you it’s not the same to have known someone, then lost their love–or them. As a spiritual person, I know that a sibling, or siblings of mine, are out there. I can feel them somehow, but they have never, or might never, come into being.
The same is true for someone who has lost a partner whether through loss of love or death. But has that bereft person ever considered what it might be like for someone who has never found anyone to love them, or who they can love back? We never mourn for the only child with no siblings to give them comfort in old age when parents are gone. Nor do we mourn the single female, or male that is now a senior and as no one to care for them or that they can care for back.
You may ask: why should we be concerned about the lack of love, the love that never was as opposed to the love that was and was lost?
In understanding the death of anything, a person, or their love, maybe we should explore their potential for existence (past, present, and future) and what we mean by existence of this type of love. Especially since we choose (or not) to go through so much grief in reaction to it.
Here’s how the thinking might go:
I already knew this person. Therefore this person exists. But if we live in a virtual world in which our brains generalize what we think we’re seeing, then the existence of the people we know has to also occur in this virtual realm.
I call this virtual existence of a person within our minds a template. A template our brain has constructed of that person. And from my experience, one does not have to spend much time with anyone to build up that template, or an expectation of who that person is.
Someone in love with another, if it is unrequited, could totally believe that their loving relationship with that template is real, is returned. It’s possible, because the person we’ve made a template of is not the person sending out the signals.
What does it mean that the people we know in this world are not directly the people condensed out of the WIBWI (What Is Behind What Is)? It means we can never lose anyone we love, because they are within us. We cannot lose ourselves, because we, our template of ourself, are virtually/symbolically within us, as well.
Now we can face a second question: If our death is also the death of all the templates we’ve created of each other, if the only place the templates exist is within us, then does everyone and everything that we’ve perceived (through imagining and generalizing about our world) die with us, as well?
If so, then the first question might not make sense: Can you reach into the future to find someone you love, but might never meet?
If we’ve made a template of our world, what are we doing when we reach into the future? And that question is the same to me as the question of whether it is possible for these snippets (these short events that condense out of WIBWI) can be reorganized only when we’re alive and our templates are active. Or may it be possible that templates re-educate WIBWI, just as a moving and changing front of one liquid interacts with, is changed by and changes, its environment (its own WIBWI).
So in manifestation, then, we can begin to see how things actually condense out of WIBWI by making a model of how this process might work if a boundary (an existence), though in the form of a mentally projected template, could exist in building blocks or pieces some which might fit together (as if puzzle pieces) with future snippets of life.